FIGHT OR FLIGHT
I’m worried about telling the baby’s father I’m pregnant. What if he thinks I’m trying to trap him? What if he won’t have anything to do with me and the baby?
You can’t predict how he’ll react. He may say he wants to live with you. He may even deny his involvement. Get help with talking to the dad from your parents, a social worker or Connexions. Remember,
the dad will find the
experience difficult too.

UNWANTED ADVICE

I think the baby’s father wants to take over. Can he keep telling me how to look after my baby?

If he wants to be involved in decisions about his child, that could be a good thing for the child, as long as the decisions are made in a responsible way. Talk to him about it, he is your baby´s dad.

CONTACT
My boyfriend keeps
turning up and
demanding to see
the baby. I don´t want him to have anything to do with us, but he says he can anyway. Is he right?
Yes, and no. He can apply for a contact order allowing him to see his child. Think about it though. Surely it´s best if you can agree about it, and have fixed times for him to see his child? Get help with this from your Connexions PA or ask at the CAB.

REGISTRATION
We’re not married but I want to make sure that the baby’s dad is on the birth certificate. Is that OK?
If you register the baby together, the dad´s name will go on the birth certificate. That way, he´ll automatically have parental responsibility. If

he can´t go with you and you both want him to have parental responsibility, you´ll need to complete a Parental Responsibility Agreement. This means that baby´s dad is taking full responsibility with you for important decisions affecting your child. Ask the Registrar for help.