To be a good mum, you’ve got to look after yourself. You’re no use to your baby if you feel tired or stressed or off-colour.

Get your sleep, eat the right things and take time for quiet relaxation. If you’ve been up at night with baby, take a nap when she does in the afternoon, if that helps you.

There’s no shame in it if it makes you feel better.

Use your local Children's Centre. For more info call Liverpool Children's Information Service or ask your midwife or health visitor.

I’m six months pregnant and my boyfriend still wants us to have sex. I’m worried about hurting the baby. Is it safe to have sex during pregnancy?

Usually, yes, but...

...you must be sure the man is completely free of any STIs, such as herpes or chlamydia. The only way to know is if he’s tested at a GUM clinic. See ‘Health’ in Who Else Can Help? If you are not absolutely sure, don't have sexual intercourse whilst you are pregnant. You’ll risk infecting your baby.

...not if your midwife or doctor has advised against it. Sometimes they'll suggest you don't have sex, or have very little, during pregnancy. There are some conditions that make it unsafe, such as if the placenta is over the cervix.

What if I have an orgasm, will it cause a miscarriage?

Orgasm is not harmful to your unborn baby.

I still want to have sex, but what happens when my stomach gets big?

Once your stomach starts to get big, sex can feel uncomfortable if the man is on top, so you need to use different positions.

If you are uncomfortable, either change how you do it or stop altogether. Baby's health and safety comes first.

What if my boyfriend wants to have sex but I don't feel like it?

You don't have to. Pregnancy affects different women in different ways. Some feel OK about having sex some don't, or the desire to have sex might be less. Both partners need to understand this.

He needs to respect how you are feeling about it. This is true whether you are pregnant or not.